Katy Perry gets up close and personal in the October issue of Harper's Bazaar magazine, revealing that it's been a struggle to find Mr. Right.
The singer, who famously married British comedian Russell Brand and then dated singer John Mayer on-off for nearly two years, says she's figured out why she's had difficulty dating, and why guys have had difficulty dating her.
"What I've learned is that if you don't have the foundation of self-love first, you really have nowhere to pull love from to give it away," she tells Harper's Bazaar. "I had to learn about taking care of myself before I could take care of others. I want to mommy everyone. I want to take care of them. I want to save them, and I forget myself in the meantime. I learned that through therapy."
Katy doesn't just put the blame on herself, explaining that her fame can be intimidating to many, but she does know what she wants now.
"As I'm heading into my 30s I have less time for bullsh*t," she says. "I look for the same characteristics: a sense of humor — someone who makes me laugh off the charts — someone who is sensitive, someone who loves and understands music, and who is really smart."
She just hasn't found that guy yet.
"A lot of times I've ended up with people who have been intimidated by me, unfortunately," she says. "They say they're not, but it comes out in the long run.
"They're threatened, or there's resentment because they don't know how to handle it. I'm looking for someone who's inspired and could be inspiring with me."
The "This Is How We Do" singer also says that meeting people is difficult.
"Well I'm not really on the street. It's usually just friends of friends. We have a lot of dinner parties. I'm definitely not on Tinder, even though I joke about it," she says.
Check out Katy's full interview in the October Harper's.
